I remember watching a movie called ‘The Man in the Moon’ back in the early 1990’s. In the movie, the father would go fishing down at the lake every Sunday. His family referred to this as him going to his church. It was his way of finding God.
I guess we all have our own church that we attend and regardless of what religion belief you follow, the true nature of any spirituality is to find yourself. For me, at this time in my life, that has been pole.
When you look at religion or spirituality, there are basic elements that a person is looking to find. They are also looking for the guidance to find these elements in themselves. Surprisingly, I have been guided to find these same elements in myself with pole dancing. Strength, Balance, Courage, Determination are all things that I have found in pole dancing. The scene of community, the support to achieve your goals and the desire to help others achieve theirs, again all elements of spirituality, yet found in a church that had poles instead of pews. Plus, when you get to the point where you are comfortable dancing around with others in your underwear, you have truly reached a higher plane!
Pole has also been an emotional outlet for me, too. It’s a place I can let my guards down and not have to worry about judgments from other. It has become my sanctuary. It’s very therapeutic being to dance my emotions out. I do notice that my emotions do come out in the way I dance depending on how I am feeling.
I also like to pick music that I can emotionally connect to. I think that is one reason I like country music, I can relate to it and I find it emotionally activating. That is why I perform to a lot of country songs. I want to shear that emotional connection I’m feeling with my music with my audience. I like it more when someone says that my number made them cry or happy or even reminded them of someone rather than how well I pole danced.
I guess the main thing is that I am at home with pole dancing. I am with family every time I walk through that door and that is what really counts.